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Work 4 Peace,Hold All Life Sacred,Eliminate Violence! I am on my mobile version of the door-to-door, going town-to-town holding readings/gatherings/discussions of my book "But What Can I Do?" This is my often neglected blog mostly about my travels since 9/11 as I engage in dialogue and actions. It is steaming with my opinions, insights, analyses toward that end of holding all life sacred, dismantling the empire and eliminating violence while creating the society we want ALL to thrive in

Sunday, February 14, 2021

This is the beginning conversation we can have...short but no threatened violence

The state of Arkansas is trying to pass a law - again, they already tried this a couple years ago and lost - that men can veto a wombn's decision to have an abortion AND that wombn has to get court permission to have an abortion. 

Really? FUCKIN REALLY???

So this is the intro to the link I posted:

OMFG - first men can say they are women (& we're forced to 'affirm' that or face male violence), now they can say whether a woman can have an abortion or not.

RISE WOMBN RISE

And this is a response and dialogue we had:

Brooklyn Wright:
Wait wtf? Are you talking about trans women and comparing their right to exist to this disgusting bill??? Am i reading this wrong? I hope so

Xan Joi:
Brooklyn really? How are you conflating transwomen 'right to exist' with wombn's sex-based rights for our own spaces, events, sports, education let alone agency over our own bodies, own lives, own decisions let alone defining our own selves? 

Are you really saying that if transwomen have to respect womyn-only spaces, etc, they will be soooooo devastated they will no longer want to exist? I'm talking about our wombn's rights being attacked & demolished by men. I'm not talking about anyone else's 'right to exist', it has nothing to do with anyone else - EXCEPT wombn. Why does it always have to be about men, whether they're strate, gay, trans, white, black, brown, rich, poor - it's ALWAYS about them.

Brooklyn:
Xan Joi what did you mean by “men can say they are women?” This was not about transwomen? 

Xan Joi:
Brooklyn it's not about transwomen - it's about this 20th/21st century's version of undermining, destroying, negating the rights of WOMBN to self-determination, agency, sovereignty, liberation, not to mention safety & protection from racist, sexist, heterosexist, trans misogyny - i.e. male violence & domination. 

I'm saying when wombn can not 'only' define & protect from male violence, who we are but are forced under threats of doxing, banning, rape, death, battery for merely stating biological facts & mentioning our sex-based class, this oppression is part & parcel of male domination of men also deciding our rights over our bodies. Nothing new - eons old. Only the form, the words, the punishments & rewards change.

Xan Joi:
Brooklyn & thank you for continuing this conversation. I have to run now but happy to keep dialoguing later.

Brief Report Back Saturday, 2/14 “What Will White Wombn Do To End Racism?”

After we shared our recent challenges and successes addressing racism and increasing our effectiveness in sharpening our anti-racism skills, we identified three areas we wanted to put on the screen:

 

1)    The classroom ‘incident’ where the white teacher had the class playing “Hangman” on Feb 1st, the beginning of Black History Month, and assigned one of the only children of color the letters “BLM”

 

2)   Addressing white people who refuse to claim “white” but deny whiteness behind Italian, Jew, ‘poor’, other targets of discrimination

 

3)   Getting banned from white lesbian groups for pointing out or bringing up racism

 

1) …The incident: we talked first about the egregiousness of the overt racism exemplified here. The white teacher may or may not have been ‘aware’ of how fuckin racist she was being – the ‘innocent’: we’re ‘just’ playing a game, it’s Black History month so BLM is part, of course no white child would/should have those letters but the Black/brown child.

We talked about ‘shock’ – how shocking it is that this happened and when it happened – and yet how not shocking it is. Is it part of white privilege/racism to respond with shock, as if we’re not expecting racism to happen every day, every moment? And if we’re not shocked, is that also part of racism and white privilege?

The intentional: the history of lynching reflected/perpetuated in the hangman; the re-enforcing and teaching white supremacy while targeting and discounting both BLM and Black History month.

The suggestions: firing of white teacher, especially if she doesn’t assume accountability for her racism and the harm done especially to the Black and brown children; mandatory anti-racism workshops monthly if not weekly for all white teachers (parents and students also); going/emailing/calling school board members to demand action and accountability; implementing curriculum year-round at the school “Teaching Tolerance” by the Southern Poverty Law Center; 1619 Project, etc.; taking white children out of classroom and talking/teaching them about the racism that went down; inviting BLM into the classroom to talk about the movement; support for the targeted children and their families; contacting the parent/teacher association(s), community groups.

We talked about the red flag in “tolerance” – the white bias in that position, plus who wants to be merely ‘tolerated’? How about valued and honored and important? Even the SPLC makes mistakes, needs ‘reframing’ from an anti-racist/anti-dominant culture perspective.


2)… It is especially hard for Jews, who have been legally discriminated against, faced genocide, murdered – and in some of our or our parents’ lifetimes – to be able to claim “white” as part of who we are.

“Not white” as in “not wasp” – where there are whites who are not wasps but where white skin privilege has been “extended” due to our ability to assimilate. Those who’ve been brought up as “Jew” or “Italian” not overtly told we are also white.

Talking about white skin privilege, regardless of our ethnicity or Jewish-ness. Yes we’ve all faced certain forms of discrimination so we ‘should’ be able to take that experience, knowing what it’s like to be the targets of prejudice and bigotry, and use that experience to then increase our empathy for others who are targets as well as increase our urgency to ensure that we are not actively part of that targeting but part of being accountable for smashing/ending that targeting.

Asking non-wasp whites how have they become white? The cost of becoming white which every white/light skinned peoples have ‘embraced’, paid the price of assimilation to benefit from white privilege. Even Jews, who are probably the closest to a white racial/religious group have managed to retain a lot of their culture or maybe unable to ‘give’ it up in order to assimilate, but have still benefitted from white privilege.

We will continue this conversation next week.

 

3)…we again spoke of Isabel Wilkerson’s quote in Caste about what we need to be willing to do in order to speak truth to power, to challenge the injustices in the status quo/power structure. Being banned is actually nothing compared to being killed, imprisoned, tortured or losing job, home, things.

We are “doing our job” when we are ostracized or removed from fb pages, organizations, even friends that are operating under and in a racist/sexist/misogynist war-mongering patriarchy. At least we are in good company.

How to address white wombn who claim that race is “assigned” therefore not real, therefore we don’t need to talk about racism. Race is as much ‘assigned’ as sex, meaning it is not. Yes, we’re all part of the ‘human race’ and there are biological and physical similarities among racial categories and differences between racial designations as in skin color, hair texture, etc.

As in sex, it is NOT the designation of race nor sex that is ‘assigned’ and the problem, but it is what is attributed to those designations – ‘gender’ and racial identities that enable racism, sexism, misogyny to flourish and rape/control/dominate/imprison/kill those targeted while granting status/privilege/safety/security/advantage etc. to those doing/reaping the benefits of the targeting.

This is an on-going conversation also.

Recommended resources:

Vandana Shiva – anything and everything written/produced by her

Isabel Wilkerson “Caste” and “The Warmth of Other Sons”

Cori Bush https://youtu.be/MVtG3VgT6nE

LaTosha Brown – Bus Boys and Poets

“So You Want to Talk About Race” book by Ijeoma Oluo